I’m sure we’ve all at one time or another in our lives made that so called “list”; our special list of qualities we all want in a man. When most women are asked what they want in a man they began to list a plethora of things that they have come up with. They say everything from good looks to intellect to honest and by the time they have listed everything most would think they were looking for a God oppose to a man. It’s almost as if women are seeking perfection. But we’ve heard time and time again that nobody’s perfect right? With perfection being an unrealistic quality should we as women still be operating off of our special “list”? Or should we trust solely in attraction, chemistry and good luck to lead us to Mr. Right?
When thinking about a potential life partner I do think it’s important to have an overall idea of what you’d be looking for in a mate. It is important to be choosey since ultimately you will be spending your entire life raising a family with this person. Marriage should be till death do you part so it’s fair that you get exactly what you want, right? Now realistically, we can’t have it all unfortunately; life just doesn’t work that way. You may get the desired height you are looking for in a man but he may come with a beer belly. You may get the handsome face but with a boring personality. It all comes down to what’s most important to YOU. I know it can really suck to have to pick particular qualities in a man that you’d prefer most but if we want to be happy with someone it has to be done.
I surveyed a few women and got 3 of the most important qualities that a man needed to have. I will call them the “3 bigs”! A big penis, a big heart and a big bank account. I’m sure we’ve all thought about each one of these qualities in a man but out of the three, which is really the MOST important.
We’ve heard from men especially that sex is very important in a relationship. We as women view sex a little differently than men but it is still extremely important. Sex for me personally is very emotional. I have to feel attached and connected to the person to even want to experience sex with them. To others sex may be purely sexual. After all, sex is important because it reinforces the attraction you have within your relationship. I hear a lot of women say that even if they don’t feel like having sex with their partner they still would like for him to ask even if the answer is no. This reminds the woman that she is still wanted by her man. So overall sexual chemistry and the idea of sex alone really sets and creates the tone of any relationship. To some women, size is very important! I’ve heard from many women that it is completely impossible for them to enjoy sex with someone who isn’t well endowed; this could potentionally damage any relationship. Therefore, good sex at a good size is definitely top priority on some women’s list.
Moving onto a big heart. Of course this is important because who wants to live with a mean, angry, selfish man. A man like this can make you miserable for the rest of your life! I recently came across a quote by Shakespeare that reads “Choose your life’s mate carefully, from this one decision will come 90% of all your happiness or misery”. This is so very true! Every woman wants that man who sweeps her off of her feet and buys her roses and candy; this is a dream come true for us. Only a man with a big heart would think to do things like this. Women consider men who do special things like this considerate and thoughtful. These type of men are always finding ways to make that special woman in their life happy. Little love notes on the pillow, a surprise bubble bath when you come home and constant reminders that you are his princess are a few things that would incline a woman to stay around for a lifetime. I don’t think I’ve ever met a woman that’s said she doesn’t want a man with a big heart, but is this always enough?
Last but not least, the Big bank account. Women can lie to themselves if they’d like but most women would love an established successful man. Being financial stable is huge on a lot of women’s list especially in the economy that we currently reside in. Like it or not, but money is that one thing that can allow your life to be a little more comfortable and cozy. Being financially stable can help eliminate lots of stress along with easing worry. When a man is financial stable he is also more able to do things for his woman and his family. This type of man offers a comfortable lifestyle along with additional perks as family vacations and surprise gifts. Men who are financially stable are also usually less stressed which makes the home more at ease and happier. Most women would also love the option of not having to work when deciding to start a family. This usually isn’t an option if a man isn’t financially stable. It feels good to sometimes not worry and know that your man has everything under control financially.
With that being said, what’s REALLY the most important to you? There comes a time in life when we do and will have to make difficult choices! Would you rather have a rich husband who is cold and unaffectionate? A man who is VERY well endowed but doesn’t have a pot to piss in. Or a man with a big heart whose super caring and loving but doesn’t have money or good sex. It can be very hard to decide when you look at it that way; you may even have to compromise some. You may find a mate who has a little bit of each quality but maybe not to the extent of your expectation. Either way when it’s said and done, there still has to be one quality that outweighs the others. Trying to figure out that number one quality isn’t as easy as one would imagine; just pondering it makes my head hurt. So what’s the verdict ladies…….BIG heart, BIG penis or BIG bank account? Think about it. What’s really important to YOU?