It’s happend to the best of us. How perfect life would be if we could find ever lasting love in our first relationship. That’s not likely to happen and most of us have been through at least one break-up. That’s if you’re lucky. There are those of us that have been through multiple break-ups and no it doesn’t get easier. I don’t know what’s more depressing: the actual end of a relationship or feeling like here we go, I’m about to be single, again.
It is not unusual to be sad or depressed after a break-up, especially if you were with that person for a long period of time. There is no magic cure to get over a break-up over night, but I can offer some advice that will hopefully make the break-up easier.
Limit your crying episodes:
It is fine to have a good cry or two, but after that suck it up. Sitting around moping and crying will not help your mood. After that initial cry you have to be determined not to dwell, no matter how hard it may be. Your tears won’t bring him back. It’s ok to grieve, but we can’t mope and become ok with it after a day or two.
Don’t contact him/her:
It will only make you feel worse if you contact your ex and the end result is another big fight, more hurtful words, or not the outcome that you wanted. Leave the situation alone at least until you feel better.
Don’t listen to sad love songs:
There are those songs that we can relate to and listening to them makes us feel like ok, I am not the only one that has gone through this and I will be ok. But don’t be repetitive with it. Listen to something upbeat that will lift your spirits and make you want to dance or have fun.
Don’t keep talking about it:
Venting is great. Vent and get over it. Every time you talk about it, you relive it. Focus on other things.
Get out of the house:
An idle mind is the devil’s playground. Have fun, see a movie, go out to eat. Don’t sit in the house and mope and feel sorry for yourself.
Don’t try to rebound:
Going out meeting a new person right away isn’t a good idea. Give yourself time to get over what happend in the last relationship. Don’t be afraid to be alone, reconnect with yourself. Learn to love yourself and remember, you don’t need a mate to validate you.
