There are a lot of “sayings” when it comes to love; like ‘love doesn’t hurt’, ‘money can’t buy love’, ‘if a person loves you they won’t cheat”. Everyone has advice to offer whether they are in relationships or not but there are a few signs that you should give up on those old”sayings” and start a new fairy tale with a new prince charming.
Abusive Relationships
Watching the latest episode of R&B Divas inspired me to write this article. Michel’le was involved in an abusive relationship and reported that her first husband, Dr.Dre, broke her nose during one of their explosive agruments. I also recall an interview with Lil Kim when she stated she had plastic surgery on her nose because an ex broke it. And to add insult to injury, he broke her nose again the same day she came home from the hospital.
Common sense says that if a man hits you, you need to leave, but is it really that easy? If we love him like we say, and we have invested years, time, children, your whole life to this man, is it wrong for a woman to continue to believe in her man even if he says he won’t do it again?
I feel that it starts before a relationship takes place. It has to be instilled in people from childhood. Men shouldn’t hit women and women should never accept it!
And why do women stay? Are they truly in love, are they lost or is it they are provided for and instead loves the money? Are they afraid?
There are a number of reason why women stay in abusive relationship, some we can understand, but at the end of the day you must support them. If you know someone in an abusive relationship, don’t judge or be too harsh with the advice without first finding out why the person is really and truly still there after being a victim of abuse.
YOU wear the pants
Money can’t buy love, so if your man is broke you stay with him right? But what about the woman who take care of the man. Outsiders have so much to say about an unemployed.
Times are hard-unemployment rate is up, jobs are scarce, the economy is trying to recover- but there is still a big difference between a man having a hard time and a man being your son. Yes your son!
If you have to feed him, pay the bills, buy him clothes,basically do everything except wipe his butt- he isn’t your man, he is our child. Even in a rough economy it is my personal opinion that men can make some sort of effort to bring home the bacon. Cut grass, rake yards, wash cars, help people move, something productive. Even if it is only $50, isn’t that better than nothing?
Love can be very complicated. I see so many people getting divorced after years and years of marriage. Are they throwing in the towel too soon or just not putting up with any more mess? Love is gentle, love is patient, and love is kind. Everyday isn’t going to be a good day, but if your significant other is putting his or her hands on you, cheating on you, not bringing anything to the table, etc. it is ok to walk away. Worry less about being single and more about being happy.
