It’s been a few years and your girlfriend has dated numerous guys over the years, so is it ever okay for you to date her ex? What kinds of rules and stipulations should be applied to the mix? What if she only went on one or two dates with him? What about if he was her actual boyfriend, but they never lived together and it’s been five years.
There is a such thing as an unspoken girlfriend code, but sometimes that code needs to be spoken! If you are unclear on how your friend may feel about something, ask your friend. Communication is the key in all types of relationships. Don’t assume your girlfriend is over a guy because she doesn’t talk about him anymore, or she is with someone else. Some women honestly don’t care about their friends dating an ex, and then in other cases it ruins friendships. I know females that brag about “passing” guys and they treat men the same way some men treat women.
In my opinion, I don’t want a guy that was with my friend but that is just me. I can be realistic enough to say that I might consider it if, they haven’t dated in the last five years, and only if they weren’t serious.
Casual dating is okay, but if they were an actual couple and had a relationship, then to me he is off limits. Men come and go but true friends last a life time. Don’t ruin a perfectly good friendship over a man that probably won’t be around long anyway. It may even be necessary to discuss the “rules” with your friends so there won’t be any confusion as to what is considered going against the girlfriend code.
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