He Cheated? Now What?
If you have ever been in a relationship and your significant other cheated, more than likely he or she broke your heart. I know how the feels. Trust me I’ve been through it. Many of you think your life is over. You don’t know how you are going to move on because you were so accustomed to being with this person. 9 times out of 10, he/she told you that you couldn’t do better and you would never find someone better than them. Well I am here to tell you, you can do better.
Below, I listed some essential tips to help you ease through the heartbreak.
1.) Gain A Hobby: Sometimes, keeping yourself busy will help keep you mind off of your break-up. I know many women and men will do little activities to get their minds off of their ex. Men, maybe playing sports with your friends will help ease the pain. Ladies, contact some of your old girlfriends. Spending time with friends always cheers me up. One thing I know we all know and love is SHOPPING! I’m not saying go out and buy the whole mall, but buying yourself a few new things will most certainly help.
2.) Closure: Get rid of anything that reminds you of your ex. That means throw out any teddy bears, pictures, cards, presents, and anything that would keep that person on your mind. I know you may want to keep these things for memories, but holding on to these things will only countlessly remind you of your relationship with that person.
3.) Testing The Water : Try to go out on other dates. This does NOT mean start a whole new relationship, but sometimes hanging out with other people will get your mind off your ex. You never know, you may find your perfect soul-mate on a spontaneous date.
4.) Take It Easy On Yourself: Remember it wasn’t your fault that your ex chose to cheat on you. Nothing can justify a person cheating on his or her girlfriend/boyfriend. If a person is unhappy in a relationship, than that person should simply leave.
5.) Acceptance : You must accept the fact that your ex cheated and try not to carry this over your shoulder. Do not try to get back with your ex or contact them after the break-up. If he or she cheated, 9 times out of 10, he/she will do it again. You know the old cliche’ “Once a cheater, always a cheater,” well it is true! If you accept your ex back after he/she cheated on you, they will do it again. Why? Because if they cheated on you once before and you take them back, they will think it is okay to do it again because you accepted them back into your life. Don’t do it!
I hope my advice has been some assistance to you. It takes time to heal from a relationship. It is never your fault if your significant other decides to cheat. It was their decision. Don’t beat yourself up about something that could have never been changed. Keep this in mind… It takes time to heal pain. Heartbreak, especially after you were in love with someone, takes time to heal. You will get over it!
By: Simone Grant