We concluded part one of this article discussing the necessity for you to become a better person. But what exactly does that mean? There are certain qualities that are becoming more and more rare in people these days. However, those in who they are evident are people whom others are drawn to. If you want the love you have lost to be drawn to you, you must be or become a person others are drawn to as well.
What are those qualities? In this and subsequent parts of this article to follow, we will consider a few of these qualities. The first vital quality is:
1) Humility
Humility? Really? Yes. Having humility does not mean having no self-worth or confidence. Rather it is better defined as the opposite of arrogance. You are never going to find an arrogant person who is beloved by the people who know him or her. Despite the fact that we live in a society that pushes people to have a “Me First” attitude when it comes to life, the arrogant person rarely has any true and loyal friends.
Humility is not weakness. Rather it is a quiet inner strength. The humble man or woman does not have anything to prove to anyone so they do not need to brag, show off, embellish their own achievements or claim knowledge and skills which they do not possess. They are truthful because they do not feel the need to make themselves look good through untrue stories about their lives or past. They also do not feel the need to be the center of attention whenever they are in a group.
Also, they do not say hurtful things about others to make themselves look better or smarter. This is another attribute that makes others find them pleasant and refreshing to be around.
As well, their own self-worth is not threatened by the skills, good qualities or positive attributes of others. This enables them to appreciate and compliment others with ease. Yes, yet another “way” about them, that makes others enjoy their company.
Are you starting to see a pattern here? People are drawn to people who have humility as a key attribute of their personality. Conversely, people tend to be repelled by arrogant individuals for whom there is never enough fuel to feed their insatiable egos. The self-centered repel people and cannot maintain successful relationships of any kind, whereas people with true humility tend to be beloved by everyone with the exception of the exceedingly arrogant who are incapable of understanding them.
Cultivating humility can be difficult because many psychologists believe that our own ego is the most powerful psychological force driving the human psyche. So being aware of this is your first step and a very important, vital even, step. In fact humility is a quality that co-exists with wisdom. True wisdom cannot exist without humility. You must learn to have a very honest self-awareness. This likely reminds you of what we discussed in part one of this article. Yes, you must be able to look within yourself honestly.
Once you go through this process of looking at yourself honestly, seeing yourself as you truly are, you can at this point begin to address the areas you need to work on. And, as mentioned earlier, you can now begin to live each day with specific goals on getting through that specific day and ending it a slightly better person than you began it.
That is a very brief overview of humility. A writer could fill countless pages of words in study of this beautiful quality that so few today are ever able to find within themselves. Developing it is part of what I feel is one of the most important aspects of attracting other good people to you, and that is the concept of always taking, “the high road.”
