In relationships it’s not too uncommon to break-up at least once and get back together. There are numerous reasons that couples may break-up and then realize that they made a mistake, but it becomes unhealthy to do the constant make-up to break-up. People grow up and they change. We don’t have to hate our ex’s and it may even be possible to maintain a friendship. So if that ex wants you back would you take him/her back?
I got a few opinions from other people and I got different answers from each one. One female told me that she divorced her husband after two years of marriage, and three years later after a year back together they remarried only to be divorced again a year later. She says she doesn’t regret taking him back because they shared a son and it can never be said that they didn’t try. When asked what made her take him back, she stated that his communication had gotten better and she felt he’d changed, but admits that she mostly did it for the child. In this case, I feel that we should not only stay in relationships or get back in them because we have children by a person. Our children might need both parents, but it does them no good to grow up in a house filled with arguments and tension. Learn to co-parent and remain cordial for the sake of the children, but don’t force a relationship that is not meant to be.
Another female that I asked said no she wouldn’t take an ex back because she left him for a reason. She explained that you can’t get to what’s in front of you if you keep going to what should be behind you. I feel that this was a valid point, but I do have to agree that people change and if it has been years and that person shows improvement, it’s not wrong to give it another try. Love is supposed to be unconditional and we shouldn’t expect our mates to be perfect. We should be willing to work through the flaws and compromise and make it work and if all else fails then the two should go their separate ways. I have stayed away from an ex for four months and then went back, only to discover that during that break he’d gotten another woman pregnant. Sometimes if they are out of your life for a period of time, it is best they stay there.
The best advice that I can give is to evaluate your situation, pray about it, meditate on it, and listen to your inner self. Sometimes the ones giving us advice can’t tell us what we need to do because they haven’t been through a similar situation. At the end of the day, you have to be happy with whatever choice you make.
